tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post8043149202225064028..comments2024-03-24T12:47:49.253-04:00Comments on Dou-la-la: Beyond RecklessAnnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01019907275666753543noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-14939320035985931792011-10-23T20:11:02.560-04:002011-10-23T20:11:02.560-04:00I'm sure it'll come as no surprise that I&...I'm sure it'll come as no surprise that I'm in agreement with Carol here, though MamaDoula has a fair point in reminding us about the grief of the family, who is hurting very deeply no matter what their choices were.<br /><br />ALSO, just wanted to point out that the body count is allegedly not up to FIVE. <br /><br />I'll probably be posing more about this whole meta-subject soon. Thoughts to gather, feelings to consider (mine and others').Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01019907275666753543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-88741804205516978542011-10-21T23:42:50.617-04:002011-10-21T23:42:50.617-04:00Yes but I live in a place where I have the option ...Yes but I live in a place where I have the option of only two midwives who will do home births. I live in the middle of nowhere. 2 hours to the nearest major cities. My town is the only hospital for like 50 miles in all directions I think its important to know that midwives might not be as capable as you think they are, and that sometimes they do dangerous things. And knowing what they need to be capable of so you can make an educated decision on whether or not this is a safe choice for you. How many midwives are as vocal about their wrong doings as this midwife is? What if there is an unspoken rule in the community not to talk about it? I have never lost a child, but I can only imagine.. in great length, that it would be the hardest thing i would have to endure in my entire life. But I could also tell you that I would probably not be on web sites in which this is publicly talked about. <br /><br />Talking about it is important.. because if we wait..it might not be soon enough for another baby.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09724148982726748715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-74916421620099835502011-10-21T17:20:11.757-04:002011-10-21T17:20:11.757-04:00Sure - I think lots and lots of scrutiny is necess...Sure - I think lots and lots of scrutiny is necessary. But it doesn't need to be so public and so soon. Can you imagine the nightmare this grieving family is living in right now? <br /><br />I also think that we need to give women some credit and agency in their choice of midwife. I can't imagine there'd be many women choosing a midwife like Lisa Barret without knowing exactly who she is and what she stands for - she's very public both via her blog and now via the media.MamaDoulanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-9336864762173459932011-10-21T12:35:12.089-04:002011-10-21T12:35:12.089-04:00MamaDoula I understand that point of view but at t...MamaDoula I understand that point of view but at the same time.. we need to talk about this so that there aren't more grieving mothers out there. I know Navelgazing midwife has put out a new series about interviewing your homebirth midwife. I just think its important for mothers to be to not have to go through the same heartbreak because of someone who was incompetent in their field.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09724148982726748715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-30862373134443395962011-10-19T23:41:18.155-04:002011-10-19T23:41:18.155-04:00Right now, there is a Mama who is grieving a baby ...Right now, there is a Mama who is grieving a baby who died and a family being torn apart because of it. <br /><br />The state and the media wish to make something out of it. And perhaps, in time, that might be appropriate but right now, this needs to stop being talked about in the abstract and people need to keep their opinions out of the public sphere. The grieving mama is reading all this discourse and her heart is breaking over and over and over again.MamaDoulanoreply@blogger.com