tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post8126787092928982909..comments2024-03-24T12:47:49.253-04:00Comments on Dou-la-la: Being "With Woman"Annehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01019907275666753543noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-25737806934194885762010-01-23T10:53:11.698-05:002010-01-23T10:53:11.698-05:00Good for her!! I'm so happy to hear that.
I wi...Good for her!! I'm so happy to hear that.<br />I will always be watching for it too, hopefully someone can benefit from the lesson I learned. It seems so strange to me that with positioning being so important and the things we can do to try to fix it being pretty simple, that so little attention is paid to it in the hospital. Unless the baby is breech, and we know where that leads. I wonder what the stat is for OP leading to C section. I heard at some point and I believe it was fairly high.Reneenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-69322554383478267992010-01-23T02:32:21.721-05:002010-01-23T02:32:21.721-05:00For those following this, I have WONDERFUL news. I...For those following this, I have WONDERFUL news. I finally got in touch (long story) and got through after a few tries. My friend's beautiful daughter was born at 9 Friday morning, at 7 pounds 4 ounces!<br /><br />In an extreme nutshell, she was able to get some relief from the epidural, and with some stimulation (really not that much, considering), was able to push her out on hands & knees! She has latched on and is doing just wonderfully.<br /><br />I'm looking forward to reading her full birth story! There is so a time & place for everything, it just goes to show. I am SO AMAZED at her resilience and at her courage.<br /><br />Anyway, had to pass it along.Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01019907275666753543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-5166185400378595492010-01-22T02:20:49.607-05:002010-01-22T02:20:49.607-05:00My "medwives" (and how I loathe that ter...My "medwives" (and how I loathe that term but that's really what they were to me!) did not pick up my posterior baby with my first pregnancy either. It wasn't even figured out until I had been pushing for 4 hours already. The OB tried to turn him, but duh, his head was so firmly impacted in my pelvis it was useless. I get so frustrated just to think about it, especialy considering how obsessed my homebirth midwives were with assessing fetal position.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17475112158639748154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-53584205424148700242010-01-21T23:35:09.441-05:002010-01-21T23:35:09.441-05:00Morgan, I don't have a clue, unfortunately. Sh...Morgan, I don't have a clue, unfortunately. She went into radio silence after I talked to her last night, when she was packing up for the hospital. She doesn't have a cell, and I'm guessing the hospital doesn't have wireless. I am KICKING MYSELF for not getting more info from her on which hospital she was going to (I've called every single one that I can find an online listing for in her area, and she's not a patient anywhere that I've called), but I think we were both assuming she could call me from her room, not thinking about it being long distance. D'oh. I'm pretty stressed about it.<br /><br />Renee, I will ALWAYS be on the lookout for OP babies as a result of this.<br /><br />Melodie, staggers the mind, doesn't it?Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01019907275666753543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-18732553493329272822010-01-21T22:42:08.492-05:002010-01-21T22:42:08.492-05:00So by dropping her do you mean that she's not ...So by dropping her do you mean that she's not going to be there for postnatal care and baby follow up too? Wow, I find that pretty shocking. I had an emergency c-section and my midwife was in the room with me holding my hand and leading me through visualizations. She wasn't allowed to do of the post-natal care on the baby while we were in the hospital of course but she was there for me, everyday. Even if I had gone over 42 weeks (which I wasn't even close to) I can't imagine my midwife "dropping" me like that. Even if it was regulated for licensing. I mean the birth I can understand, but all the other stuff too? C'mon!Melodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05859568015767404451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-84104605371895835622010-01-21T21:20:41.404-05:002010-01-21T21:20:41.404-05:00I am still sometimes bitter that no one picked up ...I am still sometimes bitter that no one picked up in my posterior baby, including my doula, apparently until I had my c section. And that was after 37 hours. After 2 weeks, I just don't know what to say. I hope things go well, I'll be thinking of her.Reneenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-23224436023341432582010-01-21T20:46:25.994-05:002010-01-21T20:46:25.994-05:00Any updates? I hope your friend and her baby are ...Any updates? I hope your friend and her baby are doing okay. Thanks for telling me about your other blog!Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12652107321069740503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-20123084223474732702010-01-21T14:25:49.280-05:002010-01-21T14:25:49.280-05:00Thanks, you guys. Unfortunately, here's the th...Thanks, you guys. Unfortunately, here's the thing: my friend wants to become a midwife herself, and like I said, this woman is currently the ONLY home birth midwife in town. There's a birth center, which she was actually planning to go to originally, but they were so disorganized and unprofessional that she felt completely uncomfortable with them (I would have too, based on what she told me). Then she switched to this midwife. SO, in order to not ruin necessary future relationships, she feels like she can't even say anything. *I* say she move away from there anyway, and come live near me - and then she can speak her mind. But unless she does, it's a really uncomfortable situation. It's pretty messed up that she even has to be thinking about this right now. But, Jill, thank you for the reminder about the Birth Survey. At the very least, she can do that. In fact, I think I'll do a little reminder post for every woman right here in a bit.<br /><br />Morgan, if you could see my draft, you'd see that you're already ALL OVER this post. :o)<br /><br />Anyway, my friend is currently in the hospital. I haven't been able to get ahold of her so far, but I'm going to try again in just a bit here.<br /><br />Anthro Doula, if the water had broken and the head was engaged fully as a result, then it would be much more difficult. But the head is not engaged - the primary the problem in ineffective dilation, but it's also kind of a gift in terms of meaning that turning is more feasible (especially if A CERTAIN SOMEONE were willing to work with her more, but alas). A combination of the knees-to-chest on all fours position ("happy puppy" in yoga speak) plus alternating sacral pressure and the double hip squeeze can do it. I was recommending the double hip squeeze in particular; it can be done with one person (for an xxxtreme pectoral workout) or with two people, ideally. While she is on all 4s/knees & elbows, press in and UP on her hipbones (the ileum), which opens up the pelvis on the bottom. <a href="http://www.motherspirit.net/articles/pregnancy/preventpost.htm" rel="nofollow">This site has TONS of great suggestions.</a> All of which I wish we had been doing 2 weeks, or even a week, even a few days ago.<br /><br />I have half a mind to submit the "I'm a midwife, not a doula" quote to My OB Said What?Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01019907275666753543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-31216498736841964892010-01-21T13:56:06.834-05:002010-01-21T13:56:06.834-05:00I agree with Jill. That midwife is providing terr...I agree with Jill. That midwife is providing terrible service and deserves a poor review. <br /><br />I'd also be interested to know if you can turn a baby from posterior after the water has broken. what would be the technique?Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02738440647498422230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-19860139446888616552010-01-21T13:11:05.189-05:002010-01-21T13:11:05.189-05:00UGH, how terrible. :( That midwife is not a midwif...UGH, how terrible. :( That midwife is not a midwife, she is a disgrace. I hope your friend demands at least a partial refund since she has refused to be a part of the birth even as a doula! And she should also go to that website that has the birth survey thing and fill out a thing about this midwife, so anyone else who goes to her for care can be warned! I'm disgusted!Jillhttp://keyboardrevolutionary.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-72080028233412418012010-01-21T13:05:37.038-05:002010-01-21T13:05:37.038-05:00I can understand why you're upset. Now that y...I can understand why you're upset. Now that your friend is 42 weeks, I imagine it's pretty difficult to get a baby to turn facing the right way. Is it even possible after the water has broken? <br /><br />You're right that she should have the support of her midwife. You'd think they'd be friends by this point, at least enough so that she's there for her through however the baby comes out.<br /><br />I have my c-section birth plan on my blog. Almost everything on there are things that I did with my 4th. c-section birth. There will probably be a few changes for #5, but all in all it's worked well for me. <br /><br />Sounds interesting about your post with doulas during c-sections! I wish I had someone like you to come and keep me calm during surgery.Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12652107321069740503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-39046580070595402852010-01-21T12:57:29.550-05:002010-01-21T12:57:29.550-05:00I'm glad you did post this; it's important...I'm glad you did post this; it's important that people be aware of what should be avoided in any set of options. I have more to say, but I can't seem to make the words into anything but incoherent ranting about that awful midwife. Can you sue a midwife for malpractice or anything similar?Nicolenoreply@blogger.com