tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post4767414842472355254..comments2024-03-24T12:47:49.253-04:00Comments on Dou-la-la: The Other Happy Babies On My BlockAnnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01019907275666753543noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-58400594198681041232010-04-03T00:18:26.889-04:002010-04-03T00:18:26.889-04:00I don't know what kind of swaddling is shown i...I don't know what kind of swaddling is shown in the book, but I do know what kind is used here almost exclusively. Baby is swaddled with their arms at their sides, or rarely crossed over their chest and their legs are held straight.<br /><br />There is absolutely positively no position WORSE for gas pains and reflux. YIKES. Not to mention many babies will not sleep if they can't have a hand touching their face. Its a habit from the womb that they don't want to, and shouldn't have to give up. Not to mention that position, when overused, causes hip dysplasia. In fact the US government used to provide a pamphlet for safe swaddling which included "double diapering" (cloth? or at least bulkier diapers than we have now) which dramatically reduced the rate of hip dysplasia. But of course, we've got no money for that now?<br /><br />My first had reflux, had to have his hand by his face, hated having straight legs, etc. No way he wanted to be swaddled. Sure as heck not swaddled up to his NOSE with a pacifier (which he hated as he had oral aversions) tied to his face (yeah, nice nurse. Thankfully he'd only be like that as long as it took me to pee). <br /><br />My second couldn't maintain his body temperature unless in skin-to-skin so no swaddling, and other than that he never needed it. He never cried, slept two 6 hour stretches a night, etc.<br /><br />I hate swaddling. I am sure, somewhere in the world there are babies that love to be swaddled but ugh. Not most I think. Its like pacifiers -for those babies that need it, fine (which probably includes all bottle fed babies). As a pre-emptive, common practice, no.mystic_eye_cdahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15479651677904819197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-79821051732236046962010-04-02T12:20:19.532-04:002010-04-02T12:20:19.532-04:00He also points out in the book that babies shouldn...He also points out in the book that babies shouldn't be swaddled all the time. It isn't great for hip development. But it is up to the parents to heed the warnings.Marissa Deanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08014319327185658199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-91883984494492880452010-04-02T12:18:27.416-04:002010-04-02T12:18:27.416-04:00I used this with our first DD. I never thought of ...I used this with our first DD. I never thought of it as a "method", I would try the recommendations to see if they helped settle her after she had nursed. She wanted to suck constantly but my nipples were raw and I was in tears at every nurse for 4 weeks. I didn't own a carrier/sling yet, they canbe pricey and we hadn't chosen one yet.<br /><br /> We did swaddle and it kept her happy at her nap times and bed time. But I never actually thought of using a swing for the swinging. In the book it talks about swinging them in your arms, so that is what I did. But I barely put my baby down at all during the first week or 2.<br /><br /> I am due with number in the fall and will be babywearing from the start, so hopefully this will help us.Marissa Deanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08014319327185658199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-74433064222148333542010-04-01T14:59:16.233-04:002010-04-01T14:59:16.233-04:00I wasn't that into the "happiest baby met...I wasn't that into the "happiest baby methods", mainly because i didn't agree with the whole idea of the "fourth trimester" since he used evolution as a basis. I've really come to like the carrier/sling instead :)<br /><br />My mother was with us for the first week, and although she was a big help, I realize that our parenting styles are just not the same, and I feel like her "advice" made for an unhappy baby for the first couple of weeks until I found my own rhythm. I've learned the value of nursing to sleep, whereas my mother advised me "not to become a human pacifier". Who is to say that's not what breastfeeding is best for? It's not just nutrition, but also comfort..so I agree with the babywearing as the best method of comfort for a fussy baby, even if it requires more attention from the mother.saranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-87519752666588710352010-04-01T14:26:52.260-04:002010-04-01T14:26:52.260-04:00I'd love to hear more about swaddling reducing...I'd love to hear more about swaddling reducing oxygen levels. My son lived in swaddles in the car and at night. I used wraps to achieve most of the other S's as well though.Erykahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02191777219816340079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-82922260259972561972010-04-01T09:14:14.305-04:002010-04-01T09:14:14.305-04:00We tried the 5S's with our daughter and it har...We tried the 5S's with our daughter and it hardly ever worked. She had lungs and when she got upset she could scream for 7 hours straight...maybe that's why she slept through the night as an early newborn. <br />When I did discover the moby wrap and elimination communication, it all changed. It probably helped that by that time I'd also figured out that our daughter wasn't getting enough hindmilk and was fussy because of all her little gas bubbles. AP saved us, for a short while I thought I didn't have what it takes to be a mom, in the beginning it was pretty tough, but we got past it.Idyllic Youthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06733596439392388621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-22503592806309724422010-04-01T01:50:59.766-04:002010-04-01T01:50:59.766-04:00Arie, swaddling for long stretches concerns me too...Arie, swaddling for long stretches concerns me too. I need to think about how I present that information on SIDS to parents. Another concern about swaddling, as a lactation consultant pointed out to me, is that it can interfere with expressing feeding cues. That's a pretty big drawback too.Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01019907275666753543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-57399268083142279112010-04-01T01:49:27.067-04:002010-04-01T01:49:27.067-04:00"I do agree that it's kinda AP - but it&#..."I do agree that it's kinda AP - but it's AP for people who don't know all the benefits of REAL AP, if you KWIM? I still find some things useful. I definitely can't see wearing the baby 24 hours a day and swaddling can be a godsend. But people should also be exposed to AP as a continuation of Karp's general philosophy. Am I making sense? Hello? Is this thing on?"<br /><br />I hear you loud & clear! Yes yes yes. I'm glad you see my perspective - I really didn't intend to attack the entire system or any one component, even, not at all. You mention that the swaddling worked well for you, and likewise, I have a good friend whose daughter had a long stretch every day where the only thing that would calm her was loud shushing in her ear plus static on the radio. I know they tried a number of other things, all very gentle and AP, but this but this is what worked. I totally respect that.Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01019907275666753543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-27268780386339362472010-04-01T01:18:04.856-04:002010-04-01T01:18:04.856-04:00I am often asked what I think about HBOTB too. Th...I am often asked what I think about HBOTB too. The main issue I have with it is that swaddling is simply not a safe practice. It has been shown to reduce oxygen sats in healthy babies & causes deeper sleeping, creating babies who are more vulnerable to SIDS.Ariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17898598416416121058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741036541041672560.post-28880221486822074532010-04-01T00:43:23.958-04:002010-04-01T00:43:23.958-04:00I can totally see what you're getting at with ...I can totally see what you're getting at with this. FTR, I really loved HBOTB and thought it was a godsend, but that was BEFORE anybody had told me a single thing about babywearing. Okay, well, we had one of those craptastic Snuggie contraptions when Jonas was first born, but compared to the Mei Tai, using the Snuggie is about as close to babywearing as bottles are to breastfeeding. NO comparison. So suffice to say we were idiots who hadn't discovered many things yet.<br /><br />When I say "sleep training" or "sleep guidance", it's most often the "tricks" on HBOTB that I'm referring to - though everyone automatically thinks I'm letting my kids CIO, which I have NEVER and will NEVER do. I just loved how Karp put a focus on meeting the babies needs in order to preemptively understand them and therefore head colic off at the pass. And I do agree that it's kinda AP - but it's AP for people who don't know all the benefits of REAL AP, if you KWIM?<br /><br />I still find some things useful. I definitely can't see wearing the baby 24 hours a day and swaddling can be a godsend. But people should also be exposed to AP as a continuation of Karp's general philosophy. Am I making sense? Hello? Is this thing on?TheFeministBreederhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10870473200937110378noreply@blogger.com